Are you a graduate student who has a deep desire to make the world a better place?

But perhaps you feel stifled within the constraints of traditional academia structure? Or maybe, you feel unsupported because of a sterile and competitive institutional system?

Your conflicted feelings are not coincidences.

 

Graduate school is a place of oxymorons:

  • Your supervisor is partly your boss and partly your mentor.
  • Your job is to do original research, but you are expected to play within the confines of academic traditions.
  • You are being trained to be an “expert” and yet you need to validate what you say with other people’s words.
  • You want your research to be for the greater good but to climb that academic ladder you need to publish in gated knowledge communities.
  • Universities are full of students and faculty, and yet you find yourself ever so isolated.

There is a common saying that knowledge is power, but the opposite is also true: academia can be quite disempowering.

 

Do you feel your pain?

 

Manifestos. Declarations. Protests. We hear promises of change everywhere and yet, do you see the change you want to see in the world? How about in yourself?

Inspirational quotes. New Year resolutions. Self-care campaigns. Pledges of change are easy to make, but the reality is, the numbing discomfort of a comfort zone is more tolerable than breaking the cycle of repressed pain. Only when the pain of not changing surpasses the pain of staying in a cycle will a person (and a society) embark on their transformative journey. As 13th century poet Rumi has wrote, “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

 

To see the change you desire in the world, you must also face your own resistance to change and to face your own pain.

 

If you are here, then you are already at this crossroads. You already feel enough pain to want to change. And you intuitively know that your transformation matters. Book a complementary discovery call to discuss working with me on a 10 week 1:1 coaching  program.

 

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Your obstacles are more than problems.

 

“A problem is something which I meet, which I find completely before me, but which I can therefore lay siege to and reduce. But a mystery is something in which I am myself involved, and it can therefore only be thought of as a sphere where the distinction between what is in me and what is before me loses its meaning and initial validity.”

– Gabriel Marcel, French philosopher (Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy)

 

You may see your distresses and concerns as problems. Or see pertinent social-ecological issues in the world as problems. But if you consider the difference between problems and mysteries, then you will realize that there are no social-ecological “problems”. Every issue you try to solve, every change you want to make in the world, including your life, to some extent is a “mystery” in which you are involved.

 

In the process of unraveling a mystery, you are also changed in the process.

 

You will have to face your own painful emotions regarding this mystery, but to sincerely work through any social-ecological issue, you are also accepting to go through a process of self-discovery.

If you feel lost, frustrated, isolated, or doubtful, know that there is nothing wrong with you. Your intrinsic ability to know worthiness, belonging, and security is found in life’s mystery, and not through problem-solving. But society’s need to compartmentalize knowledge and reject certain forms of knowing (i.e., personal, intuitive, mystical etc.) has ended up exiling you (and others), metaphorically from the world.

 

To return back into the world, back into yourself, start your journey back to your true home.

Change the world by loving yourself.

 

Being empowered is about living life with purpose.

Your life purpose is not something for the distant future—when you finally finish your thesis or dissertation; when you graduate and get a stable job; when you receive a raise or a promotion—maybe, then, you’ll have the time and money to consider your life purpose?

No. The sequence will continue…when you have children…when your children have grown up…when you retire…

 

You are living your life now.

 

In every breath you make, you are already living your life purpose.

  • But are you living your purpose consciously and with intention?
  • Are you satisfied with your life choices?
  • Do you know enough about yourself to make these choices?
  • Are you having difficulty navigating or grappling with the weight of our social, political, or institutional systems while continuing to grow as an individual?
  • Are you working on a research topic that is socially relevant and deeply personal, but you are having difficulty reconciling these two aspects of your study?

 

My empowerment and spiritual coaching for graduate students program was created to fill the neglected gaps of higher education.

 

If we are to have a flourishing society and a peaceful, just, and sustainable world, we need secure and self-loving individuals to lead the way. I help you see yourself, your life, school, and work in more empowering ways so that change can happen easier.

Many passionate graduate students end up despaired and desperate to finish their thesis or dissertations so that they can “start living their real life”. But I find that so unfortunate because school and work are not separate from life. Real life is always now. If you don’t want to wait to start living your life with purpose, book a complementary discovery call with me today.

An Eco-spiritual Self-love Approach

 

At the root of your mission is self-love. Not only is self-love foundational to a content and peaceful life, an empowered spirit and a compassionate heart can also change the world through the impact you make in your work. Three key pillars and a seven-module process set the foundation to your growth. At the core of the transformational process is the intention to develop conscious living and working, whether that is through research, design, advocacy, etc.

Understanding knowledge systems

 

1. Acceptance

Know that you are meant to be unique and be part of a collective.

 

2. Narrative

The world is shaped by our words. You can change your perspective of yourself and the world by changing your narrative.

“Being” in the world

 

3. Embodiment

You are more than your mind. Your body holds memories and stories.

 

4. Belonging

Know that you already belong despite what society says; your memories and experiences are gateways to feeling belongingness.

Making conscious choices

 

5. Courage

Fear is a threshold to growth.

 

6. Compassion

Your unresolved pain (as well as society’s pain) wants to be loved.

 

7. Praxis

Applying your new understanding of yourself and the world to your research work.

10 Week One-on-One Coaching

 

One-on-one coaching is the opportunity for you to explore areas of your self-growth journey in a private and personalized setting. In this 10 week program, we will deep-dive into pertinent social, spiritual, and life purpose topics and relate them to your research and grad school experience. As your coach, I will also assist you in being accountable for yourself so that you stay encouraged towards your transformative goals.  

What’s included in the program:

  • an assessment session
  • a Human Design session (see ‘Knowledge from the Fringes’ at bottom of page)
  • sessions dedicated for each of the 7 modules
  • a final wrap up session
  • weekly workbooks for journaling and embodiment exercises
  • email and messaging support

Sessions are 60-minutes long and are generally held weekly via Zoom. If a different schedule works better for you (e.g., bi-weekly meeting), we can discuss and customize the program to fit your circumstances. After completion of the program, sessions can be renewed monthly if you need extra support.

 

Cost: $1650 USD

(Payment plan available. Billable in most major currencies at current exchange rate.)

 

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Coming soon! Self-love for graduate students self-study course

If you are interested in changing the world by loving yourself, but you are not ready to commit to 1:1 coaching, a self-study course is the perfect alternative. I am in the process of adapting my eco-spiritual coaching program into a self-study course for those who want to do work through their growth journey independently and at their own pace.

Stay tuned!

Frequently Asked Questions

My coaching service was designed to help you learn more about yourself and develop greater self-empowerment and self-love. If those are your primary goals for working with me, then your program or discipline will not be an issue. However, due to the limits of my own academic background, I will not be able to discuss specific research matters related to quantitative methods or STEM disciplines. Preferably, your research area has a critical focus and relates to social, political, or ecological matters. While I support both master’s and PhD students, I believe that coaching will be especially helpful for doctoral students. Longer completion times, required original research, the pressures of teaching, and the need to navigate academic systems generate substantial challenges for doctoral students.
For 1:1 coaching clients, I can review short documents (up to 10 pages such as concise research proposals, grant applications, and excerpts) for big picture guidance (e.g., to discuss effectiveness of communication and self-expression, gaps or potentials in your thinking, narrative and storytelling approaches, etc.). If you need help with grammar, writing, or structuring your research documents, there are dissertation and writing coaches who can provide you with these services.
I’m not providing cohort-based group coaching at the moment, but if you have a ready-made group of 4 or more people, contact me to discuss your interest in group coaching. The program will be 9-weeks (i.e., 7 modules + intro & wrap-up) with 90 minute sessions and will not include personalized Human Design readings.
Yes. If you are working in an environmental design profession and going through a spiritual growth process, my coaching program can be adapted to suit your circumstances. Book a discovery call with me to discuss.
Psychologist and marketers have noticed that people are usually more motivated to commit to something when they have invested in it. Considering that so much money is invested in destructive systems and paradigms in our society, your investment to coaching is not only for yourself, but also a displacement of social value towards more flourishing paradigms. Moreover, flourishing is reciprocal. In the past, I had wanted to offer my insights out for free in the name of altruism. I always ended up disappointed because I had yet to understand the importance of giving and receiving. I underappreciated the value of what I had to offer, and I did not allow others a chance to receive my gift with reciprocity (towards me or their own personal growth). I’ve since learned that I need to be compensated for me to continue to contribute to the world. To help with tight financial situations, I can set up payment plans for 1:1 coaching clients upon request. Although I don’t usually offer discounts, I do believe that reciprocity is not necessarily monetary. If you are really interested in working with me but the fee is outside your reach, contact me to discuss the possibility of special accommodations.
Coaching facilitates the process of personal, professional and/or spiritual development. Coaching is a relationship that is based on both the coach’s perspective and the follow through of the client. Coaching is NOT advice, therapy or counseling and does not substitute for therapy. Coaching does not prevent, cure, or treat any mental disorder or medical disease. If you need mental health support, please seek a mental health professional. Some universities offer health care benefits in their admissions packages. Please make use of therapy or counseling services if you have them available to you. I believe that there should be no stigma in striving to be healthier, not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally.

Knowledge from the Fringes

 

Our tragic social paradigm is perpetuated by society’s need to create knowledge hierarchies. Some forms of knowledge are accepted in mainstream society while other forms of knowledge are ridiculed. Part of creating a flourishing commons is to learn to respect your own individual way of knowing and being in the world.

I encourage you to speak the knowledge systems that resonate with you. I will engage with your language of knowing. For instance, I speak “academia” and “social politics” as much as I speak “New Age.”

Decolonisation, neoliberalism, marginalisation, assimilation…Crystal healing, law of attraction, twin flames, and chakrasare all valid ways of seeing the world.

I had once been afraid of revealing my affinity to different knowledge structures—afraid of what others would think of me if I didn’t stay in an “approved” box of knowledge—but we can’t flourish, individually and collectively if we deny our own knowingness.

To bridge knowledge systems, I use the following esoteric and practical tools to support clients’ coaching goals:

 

Oracle Cards

Unlike tarot cards, which are often used as a form of divination, oracle cards are generally more useful as a tool for introspection and self-reflection. The theme of each oracle deck is dependent on its author or illustrator, so different perspectives can be obtained through various oracle decks. The biggest insight that comes from using oracle cards is the interpretation made by the card user. No matter what outcome, the inquirer is the one who makes decisions in their own life.  

 

Human Design

Human Design is a personality-energy assessment tool based on cross-cultural archetypes including Eastern and Western astrology, the Hindu Chakra system, the Judaic Kabbalah, the Chinese I-Ching, and quantum physics. Using the day, time, and place of birth, Human Design reveals a person’s energetic blueprint in the world as illustrated in a personalised bodygraph chart. This chart shows a person’s unique attributes, challenges, life purpose, and susceptibility to social conditioning. It also discloses where one has the most potential for life wisdom and how best to make decisions for a flourishing life.

I provide foundational Human Design readings for my 1:1 coaching clients. I have a Level 2 Human Design Specialist Certification from Karen Curry Parker’s Quantum Alignment System.